 Thursday, April 23, 2009Relationship Tip # 4 – Have Fun and Date Once a WeekBusy executives need to devote personal time to their marriage or primary relationship. Set aside one day each week to have fun together doing interesting activities which build up your savings account of pleasure and engagement. It is important to keep your couple relationship separate from the family relationship. Date once a week for life. When you have started to make your primary relationship more loving, you will be demonstrating kindness, not talking about what is wrong, focusing on the positive things in your relationship, and being complimentary with each other. The other assignment I ask couples new to coaching and therapy to do is to date. Have fun together. Date once a week. We have to build up your savings account of fun, pleasure, and having a good time together. Over the years and through difficult times, you may have really depleted the savings account. You build it up by spending time each week having fun together. Do things you have never done before. Or do things you used to like doing together. Take risks and try things. Be curious and look into things that are available. Do everything that is available in your town. The overall idea is to have fun together. Jump out of a plane! Take a tennis lesson. Golf. Go bowling. Play Scrabble or other board games. Have a picnic. Take a hike in nature. The least important activities are going to the movies and going out for dinner. These count, but they are too typical. Go have fun. Go to the speedway and drive cars. Attend an event. Listen to a motivational speaker. Go to the symphony. Roast marshmallows in the back yard. Find a constellation. Go mushroom hunting. Cook a special meal together. Learn to tango together. Got the idea? Plan one date a week and alternate who plans it. That way, both of you are initiating and trying to think of fun things to do together. You each have an opportunity to decide what might be fun and what you want to try. It is okay to get your assistant’s help, but make the decisions yourself. Some couples like to select one day each week for their date. It simplifies baby sitters, agendas, scheduled meetings, as well as other things. Don’t ignore this assignment. The busier you are with your career or business, the more you need to do this assignment.You ought to pay attention to your relationship one day a week for the rest of your lives…
Posted by D'Arcy Vanderpool on 04/23 at 10:53 AM
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